I've known people who actually still ID as lesbians even after transition, and if you ask them about it they whine 'You can't deny my identity waah' we kind of can if your identity doesn't make any fucking sense!
Anonymous
Same. I’ve known people who once on hrt start to look like men and panic about losing their queer visibility and lesbian lifestyle (lesbian night clubs, events, friends, girlfriends etc). It must be pretty hard to identify as a lesbian when all the other lesbians think you’re a man. There’s also the issue of being a man in women-only places and to me, if you’re a man, it’s rightly so that you shouldn’t be in exclusively women’s spaces. xy men can’t go to a women-only space and just claim they’re a lesbian: they’re men, duh. You can’t pick and choose the parts of the male role that you wish to take on. Society doesn’t work that way. Maybe it should, I don’t know.
Oh, and there’s also the fact that it doesn’t make sense.
I can't get over the stupidity of those people defending that T-shirt. A woman dating a man isn't a lesbian. It's not a difficult concept, and yet these people are crying oppression over it.
Anonymous
Seriously. The definition of a lesbian is a woman who is exclusively romantically and sexually attracted to other women. There is no room for interpretation. That’s why words to describe other attractions, such as bisexual, pansexual or queer, exist.
Before I knew that my condition was something real that could be treated(and even for a time after), I tried to ignore what I had below the belt. I didn't know that I could rid myself of it and basically tried to make peace with not having a dick. But when I learned what it was for(sex, childbirth etc), I desperately sought out a solution. I felt fucked over. Transtrending assholes need to keep their vagina worship off the ftm tag. I want info about surgery and t, not sex stories and vag pics.
Anonymous
Just shedding some light here: if an 'identity' needs validation, it has been created. If it needs another's approval to exist, it is a false myth. Long story short, if someone asks your advice about their own identify (i.e. 'does THIS mean I'm THIS??') then it is most likely forced and false. Self deception.
Anonymous
Just look at this mattchoooooo. tumblr. com/ post /20748085739 /
Anonymous
pt2: which as a teenager is most people in my life I do not have the option to be stealth. Though as soon as I do have the option I will not be living as an "out" transman, rather I will be living as a man. I felt I should share this, mostly for your readers but I would like to know if you agree that this does not make me a transtrender. Thank you/
Anonymous
Transtrenders are girls pretending to be men with transsexualism purely for the attention. Does that description fit you? It doesn’t sound like it (it’s unfortunately very common to have to be more open with your condition than what you may consider ideal while early in transition) but that’s only a question you could answer. We’ve been getting a lot of messages with people sharing their experiences and seemingly asking us to validate their identities, which doesn’t really fit the theme of the blog. Be completely honest with yourself and do what makes you most comfortable.
As an XX young man who can't live as stealth right now I'd like to point out this doesn't make me a transtrender. I pass most of the time in public (99% of the time) and I am trying my hardest to medically transition (living in a rural town and having to travel 2+ hours to see the right doctors makes it a little more difficult) However most people in my life know, I live in a small town, and still go to school with people I've known since grade 1, so people in my school (which as a teenager cont
Anonymous
Even when I'm not all ok with the criteria to diagnose transsexualism, there's one point which I totally support as a real evidence to the possibility of one person having this condition: "Persistent discomfort with his or her sex or sense of inappropriateness in the gender role of that sex. In adolescents and adults, is manifested by symptoms such as preoccupation with getting rid of primary and secondary sex characteristics" So, shut up ftm's who love their vagina.
Anonymous
Your opinions on being misgendered? I'm a cis person (lol, sorry for being so pc) and sometimes people misgender me, in that situations I just correct 'em and everything is ok. Don't you think that trans people should be less dramatic over that topic and take it easy? I read a lot of posts on the ftm tag about people getting angry about it instead of correcting the situation. Why do they think that we're all obligated to guess their preferred pronouns,specially when a lot of em look androgynous?
Anonymous
YEAH MAN. People need to chills. People are misgendered all the time. It comes down to that persons perception of gender, not necessarily the way you look.
Echoing what's been said, almost like you have a back-up choir. Lol. The only reason their hatred is so deep, and they can only resort to name-calling and finger-pointing is because you're calling out fakers with cold hard truth. But, last laugh is ours, when they realise they can't be cute little princess-boys for the rest of their lives. FLAME ON, GENTLEMEN.
Anonymous
Thank you, fine sir.
